In-Person Counselling - Johannesburg or Virtual

Affair Trauma Counselling

An affair has a traumatic effect on a relationship, so it is essential to deal with this trauma fast. Trauma counselling is all about asking the right questions, at the right time, and encouraging healthier, happier dialogue. It is also about establishing what we call 'rhythms of connection.'

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Infidelity Discovery

There's been an affair. Now what?

It is essential to act fast in light of an affair: what you do within the first few days is often crucial.

Trauma counselling enables couples to create a space for talking about the pain in a manageable and open way, without ending the relationship. Establishing this space is very important in the immediate aftermath of the affair; it serves to ask the right questions immediately. In this early phase, couples can be at each other’s throats; this is in some ways a natural response, but it is a self-destructive path.

Trauma counselling is about managing these emotions and asking the right questions. Questions that re-establish lost connections and set the relationship on the pathway to resolution as early as possible. Only then, once the right questions are being asked, can we then make that all-important second step:

Next Step

Re-establish connection

Now that healthy, honest dialogue is established, the next logical step is to create what we call rhythms of connection. Psychologists have understood the importance of these rhythms for many years. They are all about synchronisation. Sometimes even healthy dialogue may appear not to be working; often, this is a result of each partner arguing from different moral matrices. That is, they often fail to see each other’s perspective. Rhythms of connection are essential to bridge these perspectives together.

Once these connections are established, we can journey together to analyse the traumatic event, not as an obstacle, but an opportunity: a gift to help you grow to new levels of connection and intimacy. A part of this process may involve, talking to the children (if any), and even relatives and friends if necessary.

What to Expect

Intensive marriage counselling are typically run across two or three successive days, depending on your preferences and requirements. All marriage therapy sessions are conducted in a private environment, meaning it is a safe place to discuss any relationship problems you may be having.

Format Options

Johannesburg or Virtual

3 Hour Session · 1-2 Day Intensive · 2-3 Day Intensive

Together we will work through any issues you and your partner may have without any judgement, shame or guilt. By doing so, we hope to resolve any and all problems in harmony, to bring you and your partner back together again.

Louis Venter is the trained counsellor who runs all of our intensive marriage counselling sessions, and as a leading clinical intensive relationship therapist, he has reconnected couples all over South Africa.

Purpose of the Sessions

Establish an honest, open, healthy dialogue.
Open the channels of what we call 'rhythms of connection'.
Once the channels are open, we then sit down and 'journey' with couples in an additional three-hour session.

Recovery & Success

In my experience, a struggling couple caught up in an affair will need at least six months of intense work and guidance in order to work through the pain and have the greatest success. Remember, the biggest mistake a couple can make is to try the journey on their own out of shame or any other reason. Often such attempts are misguided and have a high failure rate.